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Dream On

I have a dream journal. It started out because I read a book called Wear More Cashmere.  I received this book for Mother’s Day years ago and I adore it.

I LOVE MY INNER PRINCESS!!!  After reading this, I looked at other books by this author and they’re good but this one is still my favorite.  In Cashmere, she suggests 151 things to do for yourself.  Some require money, many do not.  One of her suggestions was to have a “Dream Journal”.  To write down things that you’d like to do or purchase, places you want to go.  Have a “luxurious imagination”, the sky is the limit.  Dare.  To.  Dream.

And for years I’ve adopted that idea.  I write things down as they come to me.  Some I’ve checked off the list, some I may not ever check off, sometimes the dreams change.  But at least I have them although sometimes life gets in the way and it’s easy to forget to dream.  So I took out my journal and started reading it…

My dream journal

When things don’t go the way we want it’s easy to get overwhelmed, to forget the little things that are so important, to succumb to stress or just generally be discouraged.  Take my last  race….

I fell.  Ate it really hard.  I’m going to look like a battered woman for a while.  My time wasn’t anywhere near where I wanted it to be.  It was embarrassing, frustrating, I felt stupid.  But I kept going.  I still beat my last time.  I finished.  I enjoyed my day.  I’ve trained twice for a marathon/50K and both times had to give up the race.  After all that training.  I could have let it bother me and, don’t get me wrong, it bummed me out.  But my family always comes first so I let it go knowing if it’s really important I can train again.

People ask often how I find the time to run.  It’s all about balance and priorities.  It’s about having a dream and doing what you can to make it a reality.  It’s about not getting discouraged when things don’t go as planned.  It’s about rolling with the punches and moving forward.  Dream big.

One of my favorite shirts; “Live With Passion”

I Am Woman!!!

We aren’t “just” women. We’re women, we’re wives, we’re mothers, we’re employed, we’re maids, we’re nurses, we’re chefs (albeit not always good ones…). We carry life inside us, we nurse them, we nurture. We support our husbands, we love them, when times get tough, we try to remember all the reasons we fell in love with them. We stick it out in good and bad. We work and sometimes we don’t like to but even those of us who do still feel the drain. We clean our houses, cook meals, sign school papers, pack lunches, have parent/teacher conferences. We gain weight for those precious little ones, get stretch marks, sag in places we didn’t know we had, give up our bodies and (for those of us who readily admit it) our sanity. But what do we do for ourselves??

At a job I had several years ago, the boss decided to do Secret Santa’s. We all had to fill out a page about ourselves. Birthday, anniversary, favorite flowers, favorite foods, favorite candy, favorite scent, favorite colors, hobbies, things you collect, favorite music, home decor and how we pamper ourselves. Wow. I had no idea. I took the paper home to think about it. Seriously. I don’t think it happens intentionally but somehow along the way of being everything to everyone else I believe we lose a little of who we are. Don’t get me wrong, I have absolutely no regrets. Even after ten surgeries for my little (or not so little anymore) ones, seven pregnancies and a cumulative eleven years of breastfeeding, a marriage, divorce and subsequent marriage I wouldn’t change a thing. I love being wrapped up in my job, my husbands career and my children. But I realized I had no freaking idea who the heck I was anymore. Not only did I fill out the paper, I made a copy of it that stills hangs on my fridge. It’s a reminder of who I am and how important it is to spend a little time on myself so I’m better for all those I love.

I got a book several years ago called “Wear More Cashmere” by Jennifer “Gin” Sander . It was one of the best gifts I’ve ever gotten. It’s short, funny, easy to read and it was yet another reminder of how little I actually do for myself. I’m a list maker by nature, but while reading I made a list of things I wanted to do or purchase or make for myself.

One of the things that was suggested was a “dream diary” in which you essentially write your bucket list. Not just of things to do but things about you. Mine is on my nightstand and I peruse it regularly, updating, crossing things off, etc…

It’s hard for me to carve out a little time or money but I want my kids to grow up knowing that we all have boundaries, needs, etc… so I try not to feel guilty about using the $20 bubble bath for a blissful 30 minute soak because I want some me time. Thankfully one of my favorite things to do is RUN!!!

Ladies, the thing we love is relatively low cost, can be done virtually anywhere, is travel friendly and can be done nearly year round (year round for those of us who pshaw bad weather!!). Don’t make excuses and get out there and RUN!! Once you get out and do it for yourself, you’ll be better for everyone else.  After all, since we are women we should let them hear us ROAR!!!