To My Kids – What I’ve Learned In Life

I like to “date” my kids. In a family with so many, it’s nice to have one on one time with them. You know – to get to know them a little better. Because they’re pretty damn cool people and I played a small part in that. Gabi was next and she decided to run errands with me and go to lunch at a place she chose and I’ve wanted to go.

Lunch date with Gabi

I asked Gabi (who is a Senior in high school this fall) what her thoughts on college and life after high school were. She’s a shy, sweet, funny as hell, set in her ways kind of young lady which I respect. Continue reading

Balancing Life

It’s been a while since I’ve written and some of you may be wondering why. Life. Life happens even when you try to dig your feet in and stop it. Or at least slow it down. But you can’t. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how hard you try to balance things out, life comes down on you aggressively and even the most secure of us, the most confident, take the blow with less than aplomb. Continue reading

How To Travel Oversea’s Without Having A Passport

Traveling is #1 on my bucket list of things to do. I want to go everywhere and see everything. Not just the glossy magazine photo’s, I want to feel the places I see. That, so far, hasn’t been in the cards for me although I’ve traveled the USA a fair amount. I do have my passport application though, and I’m forging ahead in the event international travel becomes part of my reality.  Continue reading

When The Threat Is Over

We wondered in the threat of this fire looming over us, if all that we drive away from we can live without, should we downsize more? Sure, the couch, table and desk are nice commodities that I don’t want to live without. A comfy bed, comforters and pillows make life (and sleep) happen more easily. When I went to work and D stayed with the kids, I had to dig clothes out of my car. We all did. Before I left for work, I had to make sure everyone had what they needed for the 10 hours I was gone. But it wasn’t what we had packed that made the biggest impact. It was what remained. Continue reading

Wildfires and Life Lessons

I’m sitting on my couch right now, listening to wind that’s blowing up to 87 mph, nervous that I’ll be leaving soon. Some schools were cancelled this morning and I had to call into work – something I don’t like to do. D got off work early and was able to borrow a work truck. By the time he got here, I had already packed the car full, and had things waiting to be loaded. The fire was only 500 acres at the time I first heard about it, but moving quickly and un-contained. Now, five hours later, it’s burned over 2000 acres, over 18 homes, many outbuildings and is still 0% contained. Over 200 firefighters are on site, with 200 more coming in from California. Air troops are on the ready, but with winds this high, they have to wait by helplessly like the rest of us. Continue reading

The First Book Launch

As of August, 2016, I am officially a published author! My book, a self-help memoir called “Hello, My Name Is….. Warrior Princess” had it’s first launch. It was a fun event that I enjoyed tremendously. Writing a book is very similar to having a baby. Lots of planning, excitement, hardship, second guessing and was an emotional roller-coaster. In the end, it’s worth it and you’d do it all over again. Continue reading

Saying Thank You

I was having a rough week. It wasn’t just the week, it was the three months of stress and emotion leading up to this week. I wasn’t sleeping well and my night time regimen had been consisting of 3 ibuprofen and a sleeping pill. Not a good thing. In my every day life I was plugging along. My book got finished, my podcast interviews were started and my website was being built, my blog was less consistent but going well. I was on unemployment and not successfully finding a job, which meant I was able to spend the summer home with the kids which I hadn’t done in 11 years. I was running, meeting friends, taking online webinars and classes. I hope other than D no one knew how much I was falling apart inside. D knew because he sees the worst of me and my stress leaked out in very unattractive bursts of crying, insecurity, raising my voice and wondering if he’d figure out I’m crazy and want to climb out the window in the middle of the night. So far, he’s still sleeping next to me. Continue reading

Through The Looking Glass

I was getting ready for the day yesterday. Normal stuff – checking for stray brow hairs, trimming the nose hairs, looking for blackheads and putting on my puffy eye cream. It wasn’t just any day, though, and my examination of myself was more thorough. It was THE day – the first day of first grade. I had on a pair of panties that D has commented on favorably. Sure, no one at the elementary school will know, but I will and it made me feel good. I straighten my hair about once a week and today I was attempting to calm the wave. My choice to be more minimalist means I have fewer clothes and I know my style, so choosing outfits is pretty easy for me. In summer my go to is a pair of cutoff’s and a flowy shirt. I love my style (which is why it’s my style) and I’m happy with how I look, so it’s less a silent competition between elementary school moms and more wanting to look my best. I wear makeup two ways (if I wear it) – a little or a little more. No fuss, no stress, just me. Continue reading

Minimalism Lessons

Oh, minimalism, how you have changed things. I’ve downsized everything in my life, including emails and the way I process social media. It’s truly not just about the number of items you own, but more about showcasing the things in your life that are most important. It’s different for all of us, and it pops up in weird ways. It started with my closet and garage and slowly, silently creeped into all areas of my life. And I love it. Continue reading

When Kids Grow Up

Here’s a fun fact. D and I had 12 out of 13 kids living at home 2.5 years ago. I was changing the chore wheel this morning which I do every Monday. I fill in and do any chores of kids who aren’t here and I realized I’m doing far more than the kids are doing. We’ve had a couple kids graduate high school, a couple move out and that seeming trickle of kids leaving is quickly resembling white water rapids. I looked at the names of our kids – 10 on the wheel – and realized by February-ish of next year – just six months away – we’ll be down to 4 kids and one part time.  Continue reading